My social ability is really superficial, I know how to satisfy my need with strangers(I learned it by trip alone), but I easily feel embarrassed with familiar ppl(even in relationship), hard to express myself deeper, hard to point out the conscious gap between us, so sometimes I hide something, cross the gap, make ppl confused. I started to think what do I lack, when I saw CURB, I got it, larry and leon are the king of social, he could describe the reality in time, then make an exaggerate consequence to let you get into his world, then he express it emotionally to let u understand his feelings. When I chat in discord, saw ppl could say whatever they want, have clear boundaries, and also protect themselves with boundaries. Oh, that’s the gap! social is not interaction but art of my own words!
Can ppl know themselves deeper by themselves?
- by books, writings..but those are just languages like theory without practices. For example, maybe you could use existed theory to analyze sociality, but you just can’t have some real experience with it. How could you ensure those theory are practical.. you know the book or writings are just some conclusion through experiences or oberservings for several times, its some rules but not the accurate reality, reality is much more changeable, unpredictable. So ppl need to combine practice with theory. then get a deeper understanding of objective things. Comparing to if you wanna know yourself deeper, you need to make practice by yourself, like taking part in different situations, meet many different ppl, not can be known by yourself, caused self is limited and self is a objective object that need to be used in real world, but not a subjective consciousness.
Also related to feedback, self creating is not suitable for requirements.